Raising Black Boys to Men

A Mother's Guide to Raising Thugless Sons

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The Greatest Love is Love of Self!

Love is a very powerful emotion! But, the love of self is the greatest love of all; as George Benson so eloquently sang in his song “The Greatest.”

Love of self can inspire an individual to accomplish great things. However, a lack of self-love can have the opposite effect, which may manifest itself as low. self-esteem, destructive behavior, and abuse against self and others.

As mothers, teaching our sons to love themselves is one of the greatest gifts we can give them. By doing so, we’re instilling in them a belief that they can accomplish whatever they desire.

For when you love self, you do what’s best for self and avoid those things that may destroy self! On this Valentine’s Day, inspire your son to love self!

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Raising a Black Boy in America? Not Easy!

Congratulations, it’s a boy! Those were the words spoken by the midwife, after having my first son. Man, was I happy! But, on the inside my emotions were shaking like jello. But, despite my insecurities I was ready to take on the world, to ensure my son would grow up happy, and protected from a society that glorifies thuglife.

At that moment, I thought “Heck! I can do this; my momma raised a strong, fearless, black woman.” Then, suddenly I realized that I would be fighting against negative forces in society waiting to devour my son like a sacrificial lamb. Damn! Raising a Black boy in America; this wasn’t going to be an easy job.

Why It Matters

I’ve searched continuously within for the reasons why it matters that I write about raising black boys to men.  My main reason for writing on this subject is that I’ve raised three boys, who are now young men, living their own lives. The other reason is that I wanted to share my own experiences and success to help other mothers raising sons. But, I can’t deny that I’m saddened, frustrated, and tired of hearing the alarming statistics of black boys, who become victims of homicide, drugs, and the penal system.

Although my advice and guidance could help all mothers raising boys, it is intended for black mothers, who face special challenges in raising their sons.

I’m in no way presenting myself as an expert on issues in society; only as an expert on raising my own boys.

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