Raising Black Boys to Men

A Mother's Guide to Raising Thugless Sons

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When We Talk About The Black Experience, Where Are The Women?

A review of the new book by Ta-Nehisi Coates, Between the World and Me.

http://www.buzzfeed.com/shani/between-the-world-and-she#.kwLKDwNl6

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Where’s the Damn Reset Button?

Today, the issues that impact Black youth: crime, drugs, police brutality, lack of jobs, limited access to quality healthcare and education are the norm and take center stage in the news. I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of hearing the same depressing news — never anything positive!

If Black boys deserve a future, and they do, then it’s time to hit the damn reset button and bring about a new change!

The issues I mentioned earlier shouldn’t be the norm to define the future life for our sons — they deserve better. Our sons should be hopeful and excited about their future, dreaming of one day becoming a doctor, scientist, professor, teacher, or CEO of a company. Notice that I didn’t say dreaming of one day becoming a rapper, or athlete? Not that there’s anything wrong with these professions. But, they shouldn’t serve as a carrot dangling before our sons, as if they can’t aspire to be anything else.

God doesn’t change the condition of a people until they themselves change!

A Heart-Breaking Reality!

I think about all the mothers, like myself, who’ve raised sons and feared for their sons’ safety — not infrequently, but on a daily basis. We’ve watched our sons leave the house, and have prayed for their safe return. But, for some mothers, their son didn’t come home — a son lost to another senseless crime. Sadly, for many mothers, this is their reality!

Why It Matters

I’ve searched continuously within for the reasons why it matters that I write about raising black boys to men.  My main reason for writing on this subject is that I’ve raised three boys, who are now young men, living their own lives. The other reason is that I wanted to share my own experiences and success to help other mothers raising sons. But, I can’t deny that I’m saddened, frustrated, and tired of hearing the alarming statistics of black boys, who become victims of homicide, drugs, and the penal system.

Although my advice and guidance could help all mothers raising boys, it is intended for black mothers, who face special challenges in raising their sons.

I’m in no way presenting myself as an expert on issues in society; only as an expert on raising my own boys.

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